Dating in your 30s

[Sierracon99]

Sup fellas,

I haven't posted in awhile, but yeah....fuck it. Anyways I'm divorced, it's been final for almost a year so I decided it was time to at least try to get back back out there and do more than just smash random girls and ditch. Things have changed alot, all those damn apps and just society in general really fucked things up compared to the last time I dated over 10 years ago. Plus anyone around my age is either also divorced and has kids OR never married no kids and now that's considered a huge red flag when in our 20s it's the exact opposite. Like noone could stand her long enough to stick around to fall in love and get married and have babies lol. I swear it used to be kinda fun and just playing the field to see if you clicked turned into a fucking job interview process. Bitches damn near expect some weird type of beta/sigma male nowadays they can simp out and put their pussy on a pedestal. I know that's not all girls but hell the ones I've run into have got me fucked up haha. Just making this post to see if this is an isolated thing for me or it really has become widespread like I fear. I know some of the girls at my gym are interested but I have a no hookup policy there cause that's my 2nd home and I'm not trying to fuck that all up. General thoughts? Etc.?

 

[Bn41713]

They would rather have someone that cheats on their wife with 3 kids they pay no child support on than a “ single loser with no kids in their 30’s”. I’m in the same boat brother

 

[JDLift]

Date in the same range you did a decade ago. I'm 31, fiance' is 20. Met at 29/19

 

[tejascardinal]

Date in the same range you did a decade ago. I'm 31, fiance' is 20. Met at 29/19

I've tried this but they are as dumb as a box of rocks. I always go for the older women.

 

[Gbunk]

This thread lmao. Where the cougars at?

 

[gains3000]

Never put these hoes on a pedestal they ain't shit.

Never give a woman a sense of power over you and make her think you need her.

The less fucks you give, the more fucks you get. Don't be scared to be rejected.

 

[Sierracon99]

I've tried this but they are as dumb as a box of rocks. I always go for the older women.

Yeah I can't go that young, I had a 23yo kinda talking to me, but yeah I have daughters and she's closer age to them than she was me. I think like 26-28would be my cutoff, the the maturity thing is always a concern. That being said some 40yo women are fucking crazy though lmao. I feel like I'm at a fucking thrift store in this dating pool sometimes hahaha

 

[Sierracon99]

Never put these hoes on a pedestal they ain't shit.

Never give a woman a sense of power over you and make her think you need her.

The less fucks you give, the more fucks you get. Don't be scared to be rejected.

Definitely concur bro, definitely. I don't know what happened to these bitches expecting some kinda treatment like they are above us or some shit, blows my mind.

 

[Azrael]

Could be worse dude.
I live in a small town and am trying to date in the same age range as you. I do not have stupid high standards either (I will date single mom's, kinda crazy, etc..)
Just do not be a fatass and do not CURRENTLY smoke meth. Is that too much to ask?! That is how low my bar is and yet I still have trouble finding women here. Smaller population = smaller dating pool.
Feels bad man.
At least I have lots of time to spend in the gym.

 

[Sierracon99]

Could be worse dude.
I live in a small town and am trying to date in the same age range as you. I do not have stupid high standards either (I will date single mom's, kinda crazy, etc..)
Just do not be a fatass and do not CURRENTLY smoke meth. Is that too much to ask?! That is how low my bar is and yet I still have trouble finding women here. Smaller population = smaller dating pool.
Feels bad man.
At least I have lots of time to spend in the gym.

That's definitely setting the bar low lmaooo

 

[JDLift]

You guys have to get ones that didn't spend a lot of time on the internet growing up and also didn't go to college. Screen time blasts them with propaganda, pornography, general debauchery; College is a fast track to liberal identity politics, critical race theory and the 'strong independent woman' shit. I'm not saying find someone based on political views but it does so happen that women who align with conservative viewpoints tend to be a better choice if you're looking into starting a family. Not saying a left or neutral leaning woman is by default bad, and if you're on that side of things yourself then go for it, but if you want to start a family in the traditional sense you're more likely to find someone interested in that sorta thing on the conservative side of the curve. Liberal chicks might try to kill your babies, too.

It's not as hard as it seems. The current 18-20 year olds are mostly pushing back against the weird shit in the world, while anyone 22-28 is where you're likely gonna find the insane ones.

 

[Sierracon99]

You guys have to get ones that didn't spend a lot of time on the internet growing up and also didn't go to college. Screen time blasts them with propaganda, pornography, general debauchery; College is a fast track to liberal identity politics, critical race theory and the 'strong independent woman' shit. I'm not saying find someone based on political views but it does so happen that women who align with conservative viewpoints tend to be a better choice if you're looking into starting a family. Not saying a left or neutral leaning woman is by default bad, and if you're on that side of things yourself then go for it, but if you want to start a family in the traditional sense you're more likely to find someone interested in that sorta thing on the conservative side of the curve. Liberal chicks might try to kill your babies, too.

It's not as hard as it seems. The current 18-20 year olds are mostly pushing back against the weird shit in the world, while anyone 22-28 is where you're likely gonna find the insane ones.

I just can't go that young. I'm 36 and yeah 18-20 yeah she would have like 10 years on my daughters I'd feel all rapey and perved out lol. I definitely agree with the political type, I'm not very political but right leaning definitely go with traditional relationship stuff a little more.

 

[Azrael]

That's definitely setting the bar low lmaooo

No shit right! You would think it would produce some results!
I did fine when living in a city of millions, but out here in the sticks (my town's population is approx. 40k) it seems like all the good ones are taken and the rest are obese.
Hopefully they are just hiding out for the winter. Come summertime I plan to start hitting up farmers markets and places like that. With any luck that will help and get me around some women who are into doing more than just getting sloppy drunk every single night. I do not mind the occasional drink or two but fuck, getting wasted in dive bars every other night is not my thing anymore.

 

[Sierracon99]

No shit right! You would think it would produce some results!
I did fine when living in a city of millions, but out here in the sticks (my town's population is approx. 40k) it seems like all the good ones are taken and the rest are obese.
Hopefully they are just hiding out for the winter. Come summertime I plan to start hitting up farmers markets and places like that. With any luck that will help and get me around some women who are into doing more than just getting sloppy drunk every single night. I do not mind the occasional drink or two but fuck getting wasted in dive bars every other night is not my thing anymore.

Dude couldn't agree more, that's no scene to find anyone that's more than a fuck anyways. No quality girl does that dive bar shitshow all the time. 40k isn't terrible, you just gotta be quick when one gets single and swoop in all slick like haha. It's a challenge though for sure. I'm trying to just be patient and let something organic go down but this lone wolf shit gets old too and you can only workout so much lol.

 

[Azrael]

this lone wolf shit gets old too and you can only workout so much lol.

Facts. Hopefully we will both have some luck sooner than later.

 

[Thrasymachus]

You guys have to get ones that didn't spend a lot of time on the internet growing up and also didn't go to college. Screen time blasts them with propaganda, pornography, general debauchery; College is a fast track to liberal identity politics, critical race theory and the 'strong independent woman' shit. I'm not saying find someone based on political views but it does so happen that women who align with conservative viewpoints tend to be a better choice if you're looking into starting a family. Not saying a left or neutral leaning woman is by default bad, and if you're on that side of things yourself then go for it, but if you want to start a family in the traditional sense you're more likely to find someone interested in that sorta thing on the conservative side of the curve. Liberal chicks might try to kill your babies, too.

It's not as hard as it seems. The current 18-20 year olds are mostly pushing back against the weird shit in the world, while anyone 22-28 is where you're likely gonna find the insane ones.

It's all head games.

I don't know how any mature man can tolerate the stuff that is happening today.

There's a stark difference between the women of the 80's and 90's when I was coming up and what you have today. There was an innocence that women had back then, now it's manipulation and more than likely she's loaded up with STD's, don't even think about oral today guys, this stuff isn't anything to play around with, crotches of these young ladies are festering with disease, viral and bacterial.

I agree with the conservative women recommendation. However they are hard to find. You get a beautiful blond that is conservative, well mannered, polite, wants to be taken seriously. There will be all sorts of quality guys after that kind of women. What any guy in his 30's+ is stuck with today is gonna be some nasty shit, I don't even know if I'd waste my time.

 

[Sierracon99]

It's all head games.

I don't know how any mature man can tolerate the stuff that is happening today.

There's a stark difference between the women of the 80's and 90's when I was coming up and what you have today. There was an innocence that women had back then, now it's manipulation and more than likely she's loaded up with STD's, don't even think about oral today guys, this stuff isn't anything to play around with, crotches of these young ladies are festering with disease, viral and bacterial.

I agree with the conservative women recommendation. However they are hard to find. You get a beautiful blond that is conservative, well mannered, polite, wants to be taken seriously. There will be all sorts of quality guys after that kind of women. What any guy in his 30's+ is stuck with today is gonna be some nasty shit, I don't even know if I'd waste my time.

Yeah I was born in the mid 80s and got the tail end of the generation before all these pretty significant changes. Now I'm in the midst of it and yeah I can't disagree with what you are saying, the diamond on the rough type chicks definitely would have their pick at any top tier suitor for sure and competition has gotta be nuts, I live in a huge city so there are alot of options out there, but it boils down to quality over quantity and so far I've been really discouraged. Hated hearing it might be a waste of time though lol I'm not trying to be that divorced single guy forever I may just take a break and see what happens when I'm not actively pursuing anything and reset a little bit.

 

[Bando]

I've tried this but they are as dumb as a box of rocks. I always go for the older women.

You ain’t kidding. It’s incredibly rare to find a female under 30 these days that isn’t a complete retard. Like I can’t even hold a conversation with them. Like a different species. I don’t care how good they look either. I would rather stay single than have to tolerate and appease an idiot in my daily life.

 

[imagepb]

I fucked up and missed my window. At 22, 9/11 happened so I loaded up and went to the AFG for 7 years. Then I was back and spent 2 years chasing this bitch who friend zoned me, then me and her spent 7 years together, with me trying to fix an alcoholic. Now I’m back to dating again. And boy is it fucked up. Girls now don’t even want relationships. You want a peep into dating, get on tiktok. But be warned… you may just become a hermit. We’ve always had gold diggers but it’s worse than ever. They’re all after this mythical unicorn that’s extremely good looking and makes 7 figures. 2 years ago ago while in vegas, I ended up meeting this girl. Met her at the roulette well, told me she was 25. I actually thought 27. We go on a few dates. Turns out she’s actually 19. At this point I’m 40, but I’m like, fuck it… she’s legal. Neither of us wanted a relationship. I wasn’t living in vegas at the time, but I was there every 3 weeks or so. I was like, this will be great, I can do whatever and have someone to see when I’m town! But 2 years in, we start getting kind of serious. At this point we’re meeting families, etc. We’re spending every week together. So finally we have the talk about exclusivity! She goes on about how we are dating, and we don’t need some Instagram post to say that, and she’s not seeing or fucking anyone else, buttt, she won’t agree to be exclusive. I was like wtf? She goes on this rant about how she doesn’t want a relationship with anyone, but how I should be happy with how things are, bc we are dating. And that’s how most girls are nowadays! Constantly waiting for the better thing. I’ve had a couple fucked up experiences since.

Oddly, miss 19 y/o Vegas girl who’s now 21 started blowing me up a couple weeks ago. Been a year since we talked. Ofc she’s “dating” this former NFL guy, but she’s pulling this, we’re in an open relationship, i can do what I want. Hahaha. I flew into vegas Monday to see her, and she Broke down crying to me Telling me how In love with me she was. But still states she won’t do a full serious relationship with me, or anyone! LoL. Sooo many girls are like this now.

Funny thing is, I’m probably one of those “unicorns”… I make really good money, I have exotics (I don’t let girls know or see them till like the 4th or 5th date), travel weekly, I was a former operator so they should feel protected, etc. I’ve had other girls go googly eyes over some of the girls I’ve dated, so I think I’m probably pretty decent looking. But even I’m still sitting through trash and can’t lock one down.

Well I say that, but I do have a loyal, low body count 24 y/o I started seeing 6-7 months ago, that’s absolutely gorgeous. But she’s also crazy AF’! She flew across a table at some girl the other day that was just talking to me. I guess you got to just choose your level of crazy.

But Shits fucked up. I’ve had girls in a bar or restaurant that I hit on, look me up and down and ask me how much I make and what I drive? I laugh and say what?!?! They then laugh back and tell me I couldn’t afford them. Same girls will later see valet pull up my car or something and come running up to talk to me. There’s a whole generation that’s ducked up. And unfortunately girls above 30 usually aren’t attractive to me (there’s some rare cases) or they have kids.

The real fucked up thing is, as mentioned above, I’m considered a red flag bc I’m 40+ and no kids and never married…. Bc I chose to go fight and then got locked into a long term relationship lol. Tate was right about one thing … as men get older, our sexual Value goes up. We’re more mature, financially secure, etc. as women age, they lose value as their looks fade. Keep that in mind as you weed through this BS!

 

[Thrasymachus]

You guys can take this for what it's worth, but like most of you I've done the age spread thing where I'm 34 and she's 19 years old.

This almost never works out and there's a good reason for this.

A women that is 19-22 typically doesn't know what she wants, she's usually self absorbed and just wants to have fun, puts herself on a pedestal and of course she will be screwing other guys behind your back I can assure you. With me and my friends we've all had these experiences and this stuff probably started when everyone had easy access to online dating.

Not very fun dating someone and driving by their place after work to see a pickup truck in their driveway at 2 a.m. the night you were in that same bed and now some other dude is plowing her.

The world has changed, I dated a lot in the 80's and 90's, but then online dating starting really getting going in the 2000's and it radically changed things, these women knew they'd have guys lined up around the block. Today it's even worse because women not only have easy access to anything they want, but we've now shifted the economy to a women centered workforce and women no longer really need men with more women graduating college, but most of them will never build up any wealth because they're not good with money, so they will need a man to provide them with security.

This is the way society was set to go. If you look the UN agenda it was designed cause mass unemployment of men and allow women in mass to go to college and work long hours. This accomplishes two goals, destroy the idea of a strong male and then have women working long hours so she's not able to reproduce or care for children. I'm all for controlling overpopulation to preserve land and resources, but this social experiment will cause a lot of problems before it fixes anything at all and more than likely it will only weaken western nations and cause western women to scream and screech to allow in the barbarians from other nations to replace the strong western male that will be eugenically erased.